Anniversaries

Vossy1 · Apr 20, 2009

Today myself and the Mrs celebrated 4 years happily married (silk) I've been led to believe.
The point is, we've been together since we were 15, so 20 years this year, and the wedding thing seems a bit of a sham really.
Am I the only one who feels this way :hmm:
I don't wear a wedding ring either, as I don't need a symbol to prove my love/devotion.

Am I alone

jamesb · Apr 21, 2009

I'm not married yet (been together 6 years) but I tend to agree with you. I don't see any major benefits with marriage (or is that just my fear of commitment :roll:

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I won't wear a ring when we get married either. Mainly for the same reason as you, also because I don't like rings, and also because it's dangerous in my job.

If you love each other, why do you need to prove it to other people?

jamesb · Apr 21, 2009

Congratulations by the way :thumb:

A T · Apr 21, 2009

Congrats V and Mrs V :thumb: I was never a believer in marriage but if it works for some people then why not, it's just not my cup of ale

J_P · Apr 21, 2009

Nice one Vossy. as someone who has recently married I can say that I don't feel any different either. With this said the day was a lot of fun and Sharon and I enjoyed ourselves. Like you I do not wear a wedding ring as knowing my luck I'd tear my finger off (much the same as a childhood mate of mine did).

I'm not sure "sham" is the right word however marriage does serve to make the whole escapade official and as the last of a line that means a lot to a bloke like me.

Vossy1 · Apr 21, 2009

I'm not sure "sham" is the right word however

Thanks to 'variety' in life, I can disagree :P
I think the modern take on marriage is a sham...it's just a way of fleecing you of all your hard earned cash.
Your engagement ring must equate to 3 months salaray, your marriage to 6 months salary...wtf :shock:
I got married in thailand at a fraction of the cost of most of my friends here in the U.k...but you'll probably know all about that J_P :party:
Marriage to me means nothing, the Mrs knows that, it's a word, a certificate, it's what's in the heart is what counts :thumb:

J_P · Apr 21, 2009

Vossy1 said:
it's what's in the heart is what counts :thumb:

Never a truer word spoken. As for other peoples expectations of your wedding - I say **** them, who's getting married you or them? I say please yourself and if anyone has a problem with that then they aren't the friend you thought they were and should be binned forthwith

Screwy · Apr 21, 2009

Vossy1 said:
I think the modern take on marriage is a sham...it's just a way of fleecing you of all your hard earned cash.
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No.....thats divorce :lol:

Been married for 39 years :

Vossy1 · Apr 21, 2009

:lol:
39 years....that's fantastic

tubby_shaw · Apr 21, 2009

We'd been together 10 years before we got married and had kids aged 9 and 7. I never do rush into things :lol:
We got married on Tuesday April 1st at 11am at a registry office and we got asked if it was a joke :wha: We also told people that we didn't want presents but that they'd be paying for their own meals.
No cars no flowers no official photographer, a new dress for SWMBO and the girls a new suit for me and the cost of one nights stay in a 5 star hotel. All done for less than a grand :party:
Those that took us seriously and turned up all said what a great wedding :thumb: Those who didn't come not surprisingly we see very little of, their loss not ours :roll:

The most "rewarding" part was legitimising the kids :thumb:
I do wear a ring but I am a traditionalist, it hasn't made one iota of difference to our relationship but it was one hell of a great day :drunk:

Muddydisco · Apr 21, 2009

Me and the mrs got married the way we wanted to! A quick civil wedding on a sat and a day long hog roast with 180 pint of real ale out of the kegs. I don't wear a ring because i'm not allowed to at work, to many people have lost fingers! one good point about getting married they took 50 quid off my car insurance! As if being marreid will make me drive differently!!

Dunfie · Apr 21, 2009

I like the different arguments posted and agree with most of them.

We got married when we were turning our attention to having kids - it just seemed like the right thing to do. It didn't change how SWMBO and I felt about each other but it sort of took us to the next level of commitment for starting a family.

The wedding itself was a quick affair. We decided to go for it after I proposed in front of a romantic castle in an unromantic state of drunkeness (I'm amazed she didn't tell me to try again when I was sober). We then sorted out some time off from our respective places of work, booked a registry office and five weeks later we were married. The family felt that we were being a bit mean by only having immediate family at the meal but then again I never asked them to pay for anything.

llannige · Apr 21, 2009

Me and the Mrs have been together 23 years now and have never bothered getting married.Used to talk about it a long time ago,but both considered it a waste of money.We never even mention it these days.
Very happy the way things are. :thumb:

Wez · Apr 21, 2009

Congratulations V & Mrs V :thumb: :clap:

EskiBrew · Apr 21, 2009

Congratulations you two :thumb:

We've been married 5 years next month although we have been together 14 years. We had a small low cost wedding with just close family and a few friends up in the highlands of Scotland then cleared off to New Zealand for 8 months :party:

prolix · Apr 21, 2009

Congrats V and misses V

well I liked getting married, let the mother out law organise it all just vetoed when necessary. Had a great day misses loved it.

Had a great honeymoon, I was a rich man before then. not been in credit since :shock:

Frisp · Apr 22, 2009

we popped down the registry office. had mates as witnesses, no family present, only mates. the families wanted to run the day for us so we vetoed them. Back to our gaff for a sarnie and a pissup. with the money we saved on the full blamange dress thing damn near furnished our house. that was 20 years ago and we have no regrets about the day.. I dont need a ring to know that Im married, Im able to remember my commitment to SWMBO and I dont need a piece of metal to make me behave accordingly. I am now of the opinion that our commitment each other should be celebrated in some style and I have decided that a suitable representation of this should be big and shiny..... any ideas what I can get her for the next anniversary.......

:grin:

Oblivious · Apr 22, 2009

Congratulation Vossy1

jamesb · Apr 22, 2009

Frisp said:
I am now of the opinion that our commitment each other should be celebrated in some style and I have decided that a suitable representation of this should be big and shiny..... any ideas what I can get her for the next anniversary....... :grin:

A full set of shiny cornies?

Frisp · Apr 22, 2009

jamesb said:
Frisp said:

I am now of the opinion that our commitment each other should be celebrated in some style and I have decided that a suitable representation of this should be big and shiny..... any ideas what I can get her for the next anniversary....... :grin:

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A full set of shiny cornies?

I got her them last year.........
I do recall her admiring a 1bbl micro brewery a few months back......... do you think she would like one of those.......

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