Mental health

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  1. May 25, 2019 #1

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    My son has just been trained as a mental health first-aider in the workplace. I'm really so proud of a young lad who is aware, thoughtful, sensitive and humane (not like me at all).

    This sort of thing is one of the abiding topics of our times - https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/

    Keep safe, folks.
     
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    Well done
    Fantastic thing for him to do!
     
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    Us old ones are a dying breed those of us who never discuss our problems with others and who would be more likely say "He should grow a set" if we found out someone we knew was having mental health problems then give them support, my lad is 21 and he has no problem discussing his problems with both male and female friends and they have no problem discussing theirs with him times certainly have changed and for the better.

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    Well done to your lad!

    The phrase "Pull yourself together!" has to be up there in the Top-Ten of things that should never be said!
     
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    I spent some time "residential" at Combat stress in Surrey - well done to your lad because a well trained mental health person can save just as many lives as a heart surgeon, always remember that.
     
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    That reminds me: Another common misconception is "if you're mad you don't know you're mad". Hmm … you do you know! You don't want to be whispering things within earshot of the subject either.

    "Mental health" is one of those non-descript terms. Like saying you've a broken bone, but not saying which one. I think I'd chose to be a physical first aider - a lot less work and certainly a bit less "abstract".
     
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    I suffer from OCD and have done for years when i didn't know what it was i thought i was going mad (checking door locks, car door etc repeatedly) one day i noticed a mate at work go back to his car twice to try the door and i said jokingly is the lock faulty and he said no i have OCD a few google pages later and i realised i want going mad, i still suffer but things have got a lot better since that day.
     
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    I've started to check that I've locked the front door when I leave home - but I've put that down to old-age rather than OCD; especially after going to France for three months and leaving the back-door unlocked!

    However, I have to ask "Does anyone else 'line things up'?"

    As an example, when I look out of my front window the vertical bar of the right-hand window lines up perfectly with the back corner of a house over the road and another window bar shows me that either my window is skewed or the fence of another house over the road isn't vertical.
     
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    I've got the same problem Dutto, only in my case I chalk it up to professional deformation, as I'm a quantity surveyor by trade and as such I can't stand anything being askew.
     
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    I'm obsessed with symmetry and precision in everyday life - a trait I wasn't aware of until it was pointed out a long time ago. Probably the result of working in trades that demanded such a leaning. But does that qualify as a mental health issue? No... just an idiosyncrasy.
     
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    You should see my computer desk everything is lined up and if anythinv is moved when I am out I line it up as soon as I sit down I am sure SWMBO does it on purpose.

    Do you count?

    Compulsive counting is a common symptom or OCD compulsive countings a common OCD. People with counting compulsions may count because they feel that certain numbers have a special significance, and therefore specific actions must be performed a certain number of times. ... The counting may be mental or aloud. People with counting compulsions may count because they feel that certain numbers have a special significance, and therefore specific actions must be performed a certain number of times the counting may be mental or aloud.
     
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    I do the lining up thing and point out things that are wonky or on the piss ..I also used to draw a lot and that was my intended career until I spent my first year after school in and out of hospital and full of metal bolts instead of art college..I often "draw" in my mind a scene, animal etc that I'm looking at or remember and get the feeling of how it would pan out and whether I could do it or not...funny old world!!
     
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    I'm the opposite! The workbench in the garage is an absolute mess and only tidied up when I need to do something ...

    ... however, if SWMBO (or anyone else) touches anything I know immediately.

    Having said that, I was told "You should've looked where you were going!" the other day, This was after I stubbed my toe on an anvil that SWMBO had removed from the garage and placed in the middle of the kitchen doorway to weight down a bent section of oak flooring! "Can't live with 'em and can't live without 'em!" is a phrase that springs to mind!

    With regard to the counting, I have often found myself running up numbers in my head for no apparent reason. aheadbutt

    The numbers don't have any particular significance, so I've always thought it was similar to the "Can't get that tune out of my head!" syndrome.

    Looking at the rest of these Posts, that lad of @ElvisIsBeer would have a field day if he started studying this Forum Members! athumb..
     
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    Every one of us has "habits and rituals" of some sort...we set the clock,get up,get washed and dressed,go to work...do the same thing over and over...for years until it's second nature,dead easy,ingrained into your very being...things others cannot do easily.
    Our lives are all different and what's a normal life for some others couldn't even imagine it it cope with it...but we all plod on.
    Different things affect us...we all have various abilities to blank things out,to carry on or not...I suppose we all have a tipping point.
     
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    Im the Health and Safety rep at Royal Mail. My friends who's just got into brewing and singed up here is our IR rep.
    Mental awareness is huge, I was on a workshop a few weeks ago in regards to it.
    So props to your son, its a big deal and a lot to take in.
     
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    By the end of this you will know for sure if its random or OCD. (House Door/Car Door at 2:08 is me)


     
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    Cheers

    My lad said it was a very intensive training session, and he gained a lot from it.
     
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    Similar here. In some ways I hate that others in my family leave clutter and mess where it shouldn't be, but when it comes to my desk or my garage, they are a sight to behold! There is what looks like complete disarray, and I too usually need to clear a space before doing work of any sort on my workbench. However, I know precisely where everything is. It may look like clutter but everything is in its rightful place - pots of screws, drill bits, sealant, spoke spanner, brazing torch, paint brushes, centre punch, masking tape - I know exactly where to find them all in the heap of so called mess.

    I find that so called tidy or orderly family and colleagues spend ages looking for things or information that has been put away somewhere safe. They haven't a clue where things are, yet I can visualise where I have last seen said items and 80-90% of the time know exactly where to find lost items. I suppose that is why I don't need a tidy workspace.
     

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